Back to Basics

We're often faced with challenges we dont quite understand. We tell ourselves "yes, this is a challenge", but when we think about the "why", we're often left without answers. Why is this so challenging for me? Why isn't this relationship progressing? Why do I feel so stagnant? The questions regarding the "why", can be endless, but the answers rarely surface. This is the moment in which we should go back to the beginning. 

Looking at a situation from its core enables us to understand that said situation at it's current state. A perfect example is looking at yourself. We are who we are today, because of everything that may or may not have happened to us in the past. If we're always hostile, impatient or frequently angry, look back and ask yourself, what's the origin? What caused this behavior? What influenced this change? Same for if you're overly caring, giving tirelessly to others or finding yourself overcompensating for the behaviors of others. Ask yourself, why do I lack boundaries? Why do I find myself giving so much of myself to others? What am I trying to gain by doing this?

Going back to the beginning of any complicated situation, however, is no easy task. You may find yourself battling with your own thoughts, telling yourself "nah, I'm not that hostile man" or "I actually have boundaries, so a lack of boundaries can't be the issue". You may also find yourself blaming others for your actions. If you find yourself in this or similar predicaments, pause. Remember that the devil attacks our minds as well, he loves when we're confused, stagnant and in a position where our challenges are defeating us. He hates progress and any type of self awareness. The moment you're making an attempt to progress in any way possible is the moment you being your strongest battle. 

With that in mind, the idea of "I'm good man" or "I'm not that bad" will be a thing of the past and you'll become a bit more openminded to see where your problem areas are, and develop a willingness to change. Remember, we can't progress if we're committed to remaining the same. Each level requires a different you. Luckily, with God on our side, the battle is already won. Seek Him first and He'll guide your path along this journey.

Love, Nelly